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By Our Correspondent Š2004 Bollyvista.com |
When Ruby Bhatia first breezed into Hindi cinema, everyone thought she epitomized the quintessential foreign-reared-desi. She was hip-hop and happening, but with very little knowledge on how things worked in home country. And therefore everyone was sure she would run back home once the glamour wore off. But no, Ruby is made of tougher metal. She stayed on in Mumbai, braved a bad marriage and a struggling career, and is today a popular anchor, television and film actress. Here she gets personal and talks of how marriage is a bit of convenience and a bit of a compromise.
"I think its a little of both, a compromise and a convenience. When we are growing up we need our parents and siblings, the minimum nuclear family structure to provide us stability and healthy environment for growth and survival. We do have arguments and fights with our family members but that can't break the strong bond which we share. We do need a home to come back to. You want to be looked after, even pampered a bit!"
"In fact our needs remain the same even when we are grown up. So, you can say marriage is convenience. But...I think marriage and family are over-rated in India, too much is expected out of these. What I really fail to understand is why people tend to glamorize sasural when maika is not glamorized. That's where the compromise comes in. Add to it the ridiculously high standards of lifestyle and opulent homes portrayed by the media in films and TV, which raise expectations to unrealistic and impossible levels. What's really needed are reasonable expectations and not poetic ones with fairy tale endings!"
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